I'm a smoker. I've been told I have a dry sense of humor. I can be quite shy at first, but once I warm up I'm an incredibly sensitive, yet manly man.
I'm looking for some one to spend some time with. I've got my life in order, and I don't "NEED" any one to complete it, I'm a whole person, but it would be nice to have some one to share the evenings with.
My lady will always be all that matters in my life. Anything she wants to do with her life, I will always support her, and stand by her side. If she wanted to go to college forever, have her own career, or be a housewife, I would support her every step of the way! I would always be proud to be with my lady, introducing her to all my friends, and family. I will always defend my lady's honor, and never talk down to her, or degrade her in anyway. I would cherish the time I spent with my lady. If we just sat at home and watched TV, or went to the beach, hanging out at the mall, or whatever, I would always value our time we spend together!
I do have high standards however and just want to put it out there so we don't waste our time. I want someone white, athletic, skinny, fit, who takes care of herself. Doesn't mean your in the gym 24/7 or eats right all the times. I just don't want someone bigger than I am. I want to be able to take you out on my motorcycle while we cruise the ocean blue. I am 5'9 155lbs, brown hair, eyes, athletic, who enjoys the beach, surfing, scuba diving, anything outside..
Think your compatible? email me, exchange pictures, and go from there. cant wait to hear from you! :)
- I'm not quite local, I live in Fayetteville, but I want to find the *right* one, not just the geographically convenient one. The first question this revelation usually elicits is "are you military?" and the answer is "no, and you shouldn't be either".
- I want to find someone to have a relaxed, fun, happy life with, so no "professional" or "goal oriented" types need apply. My priority is my partner, and I expect the same in return. Same goes for the "family and friends" issue... the point is to be each other's number one family member and best friend, so if you're not into that, and expect me to be second to anyone, or if you're not into the being joined at the hip thing, it isn't going to work. I don't do the "lets have 2 separate lives and call it dating" thing. 1 + 1 still equals 1 :)
Now,for clarification...I even said so in my post,that I was referring to ladies who were posting in the w4m category....not the m4w category because I knew it was more likely that ladies would be reading that category as opposed to w4m...unless yall really ARE that catty,then I fear for every single male out there.
Now,I was merely giving advice to you ladies who do post in w4m on how to get your ad noticed by us guys.
Now certainly if you do NOT post ads in that section,then why would any of this apply to you? Thats right,it wouldn't...at all since you did state in your reply that 'I choose not to post at all because I WANT TO SELECT those gentlemen who write interesting descriptions of themselves, and who may be compatible with me. '...and ya know what,that's fine.
But I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that you are NOT the only girl on CL,and while you and others who are like you simply like to read m4w and choose guys that way...there are LOTS of other females out there who do post in w4m and I was merely letting them know general male mindset so they could get more and higher quality responses.
None of which was sacrimonious or smarmy.
But if you want to resort to 3rd grade name calling,we can do that too.
The other thing that will get you ignored quicker than not posting a picture is saying things like 'my kids mean the world to me' or 'my (dog/cat/chinchilla) is my life'.Havent you wimmin ever dated anyone at all??
No really think about it logically,once a guy likes you,he really dont care if you have kids or if your 15 teacup poodles are the cornerstone of your exhistence...now if you throw that out there before a guy even gets a chance to meet you...you've more or less shot your own foot off.
Alot of guys dont care for kids or pets and will be turned off immediately...and skip right over your ad....now,if you go out on a date with a guy and he finds himself really liking you,by the time you say 'Oh yeah BTW,I have a child,children and/or an army of critters',he will be saying 'Oh its okay cause I really connected with this girl,so I can get past that'
I believe that chivalry is not dead, but that women are special and amazing. I believe that no one should change their personality for someone else and that compromise, trust, and respect are the key to any relationship. And pizza. Don't forget the pizza.
My free time is spent at the beach, working on my house, jogging, going out with friends, going to different events (concerts, sports, etc) or running my business.
I'm just looking for a woman with similar interests who is upbeat and hardworking and goal oriented. Physical fitness is important to me and I expect a woman to have a similar priority. Someone to have fun hanging out with and get to know. Hope to hear from you. Please provide pics. Lastly, you need to like jelly and know if you have any in your home.
What I'm looking for,a nice girl to spend some quality time with.I am NOT looking for FWB or a one night stand,I'm looking for someone who will laugh with me during the good times,and give me a pat on the back and say 'It'll be okay' during the bad.Not looking for a beauty queen either,but at least look like you made an effort to look halfway decent before ya walked out of the door.She must have a good sense of humor and enjoy laughing...alot,cause I'm sort of a goofy bastard!
Now time for the NO section. NO club rats! If your idea of a good nite is boozing it up on the dance floor at some random bar,just keep on moving along.I am way WAY over the meat market scene.NO drug addicts and/or alcoholics,and by that I mean if ya like to take a puff every once in a while and have a few drinks now and then,thats quite alright,but dont come up to me doin the junky shuffle and asking me if I can find you an 8-ball..I'm way over that scene too.NO drama queens!!! I was in an LTR with one of those for some time and nothing good ever came out of it.In other words if you got some jealous ex lurking about,dont even bring me that baggage...I've done quite well getting rid of mine,you should do the same.Oh yes,and one final one,if you are under the age of 21 or over the age of 35,move right along.
Shy girls are more than welcome to apply,I think it's kinda cute...you bein all shy and bashful like! ;)
Anything else ya wanna know,feel free to zap me a message,or visit my MySpace page (www.myspace.com/ill_will420).
I am in a good working environment. I have a steady paying job with a very good 401K and do pretty well with it. I am looking for someone that has a steady job as well and doesn't need a sugar daddy to support them. I am saying all of this b/c I do look into the future as well and we could have amazing things if we both put in together. If you are in college then at least have a plan and not saying to get drunk every night and party. I do like to party but not go downtown and drink all the time and hook up with random people.
I love the outdoors! Scuba diving, surfing, Motorcycles, kayaking, skiing, etc. I want someone that doesn't sit on the couch and do nothing all day. Sometimes, Its cool but not all the time. I am classified as the life of the party, I love to joke, so sense of humor is a must.
I am a romantic, I love to watch movies and cuddle on the couch with the women I am seeing. I believe in having random rose peddles set up going toward the bathroom with candles lite and massaging your feet while in the bath tub.I am sexual active, doesn't mean when we first meet your going to get it, just means will see what happens. I believe it is good for a relationship and does bring each other closer together. I do believe in that song where its worded " I want a lady in the street, but a freak in the bed". That has so much meaning behind it. its not all about sex.
I am Drama free as well. I am not close to anyone that has drama in there life. I live my life to the fullest and will not let anyone take that away from me. Life is too short to worry about dumb things. Be thankful that you woke up this morning and live it as if it was your last.
Anyway, on to the good stuff. I am really into music and play in a few bands. I am easy going, mature, funny (in a mean spirited, Hunter Thompson kind of way) and a bit sensitive when it comes to relationships. I am way more emotional than I appear to be and even my friends don't get to see my softer side. I am a weird, artsy type guy inside with a hard, cold, candy shell. Yeah, I cross my legs like a woman, laugh at me and I'll dress you down like a drill sergeant.
I am looking for someone who is maybe a little quiet, not that outgoing, not shallow, intelligent and fun. If your idea of a date is shaking your ass at the Liquid Room, take your little Uggz booties and get out of my ad! If you can't talk about more than American Idol and Britney, don't bother.
I'm not really shallow, but hey, there has to be some sort of physical attraction. Like I said, I'm not that hot, but I'm not hideous (my mom says I'm cute!). My only real thing is weight. I don't care if you aren't anorexic thin, but please don't be obese. I am in decent shape and workout 4-5 times a week. Being healthy is important to me. I don't mind a bigger girl, but if you have to lift your gut to trim your cooch you don't need a man, you need to get healthy.
Oh, and I'm not rich. I don't have a boat like every other dim-whit on this site. I live in the ghetto. I do have a Jeep though. I hate corporate America and think rich people are scum, unless they are cool. Don't knock Bill Gates, he may have $60 billion, but he's one of the biggest philanthropists in the world. I am political but refuse to vote. Voting in America means choosing between a giant douche and a turd sandwich, and if you get that reference you are cool by me.
Port City Java is the bees knees. And they have free wifi, unlike shitty Star Bucks.
I sometimes go see a shitty movie just for the popcorn. I relate everything to movies and music and South Park or Family Guy. I sing along to every song I hear, even if I don't know the words. I know the words to Yellow Ledbetter, even though Eddie doesn't. I think the Flobots and System of a Down / Scars on Broadway / Serj Tankian are brilliant. Marylyn Manson is the man. Zach de la Rocha should run for president.
Anyway, if you made it this far you should write me. Don't be psycho. I will more than likely not trade pics for a little bit just cause I am more interested in your personality than your looks.
Oh, if you are Sarah Silverman you should definitely write me cause I want to be your bitch.
About me.... I work in health care during the day and then as a musician/singer/songwriter at night. I love anything that has to do with the water, surfing sailing and hanging on the beach.
My idea of a great first date would be just going out to a nice place with some friends and getting to know someone.
I am a busy guy and would like to spend all my spare time loving someone not fighting them so drama queens and cheater need not apply. Seriously if you can't resist temptation and be faithful don't email me, I have had enough of that.
About my picture, I am not a bad looking guy just don't want to post it here b/c I am not sure who reads this stuff. Your response and picture will get you a link to my bands page with pics of me.
Most likely, you are a single mom, maybe divorced, maybe never married. You are in general a really smart woman, but just a few mistakes in your life have changed the entire path that your life has gone down. Trust me, we all make mistakes, but sometimes people get through them better than others.
You may not read these personals very often, but recently you have decided that you would start looking around a little bit more. You probably look great everyday, even those trips to the grocery store, because you just never know who you might run into! (although, you probably think that you never look good enough)
I can almost bet that you are a very hard worker, maybe a college degree? You keep on kicking through the “for now” job, hoping someday you will find a job that gives you the pay and satisfaction that you deserve.
You probably found your “first love” too early, and found out that he was a big jerk. You stuck with him a little too long, then when you left, you only found other jerks. You KNOW that your perfect mate is out there, and at this point, you would prefer to be alone that be with anyone else.
How am I doing so far? I dont know if I hit the nail on the head, but you are probably curious if you are still reading, right? I am curious too, “What is her name, that girl that is reading this and is my soulmate?”
My guess, you are in your mid 30's, but I could be off on that one... regardless, you are open to a man that is in his mid 30's. You take good care of yourself, but that doesnt mean that you dont have imperfections, maybe several?
You were brought up to love Jesus, but with the struggles in life, you sometimes find yourself doubting. Not changing your beliefs, just a doubt once in awhile. You would LOVE to find a strong Christian man, but think that you may have to settle with a “worldy” man someday... Yes, there ARE Godly men out there that can be a ton of fun, super romantic, good looking, sexy, and completely honorable!
You probably are more comfortable living in the country than the city, have a love for animals, and think that jeans and a motorcycle are sexy. You probably love to dance, but dont really get a chance to go out and really let loose very often. Going out with “the girls” just doesnt cut it anymore, and you cant leave the kids at home too often. If I was a fly on the wall, you probably still dance at home when nobody is looking, or at least sing along to the radio while cleaning the house?
Hmmmm, How am I doing now???
What you are looking for: A romantic guy, someone you can TOTALLY trust, someone to come home to you every night, a guy that can let you be a stay-at-home mom (if you want), a guy that will love your family like his own, a guy that will sneak you out in the middle of the night for a surprise date, a guy that will kiss you in public, a guy that will laugh on the floor with you when one of us says something stupid, a guy that drives a nice car or truck and looks good in it, a guy that smells good, a guy that will go to Victoria's Secret and pick out things for you on his own, and maybe a guy that will still be masculine while he is holding your purse in the mall for you??? This guy will care more about you, God, family, and friends, than his career, but confident that he will always have a great career.
Well, how well did I describe you? I know you would like to hear more about ME than you, but you will, after you write and introduce yourself! DEAL?
I am posting this ad in other cities than where I live, because I am pretty sure you dont live here, but I do live in NC, and dont have a problem traveling often to see you... if indeed you are the right woman that answers this first part of my love letter.